Childlike
It often feels like my kids are in a rush to grow up. As a result, I often forget that they're just kids.
Tayler speaks very eloquently. She has very effective communication skills, and she can use this to great advantage when trying to get out of trouble. She's also very good at sticking up for herself. She has a terrific memory, and is extremely compassionate. Her sense of humor is well developed, but sufficiently different from mine that we don't always enjoy the same kinds of jokes. She often gets agitated when I tease her.
Tyler is on the warpath for independence. She wants nothing more than to spend time in her room, alone, with the door closed. She emails her boyfriend, plays games on her computer, or paints her nails. She's quite content to spend an entire evening in her room, and only comes out -- grudgingly -- for dinner. Tyler has a very sophisticated sense of humor, and loves to tease people. She's been extremely short-tempered lately, which has me worried that the long dark years of puberty are quickly approaching.
I once took the day off today to spend with the girls, since they were home from school. We had a pleasant enough morning, with no real conflict until just about lunch time. This was somewhat remarkable, as the girls are usually at one another's throats before they even finish the morning's cereal. After lunch, I took the girls swimming. They love to swim; and would swim all day long if permitted. I don't have the stamina, so it's usually a few hours worth of pool time before we pack up and head home.
The twins are different people entirely in the water. Both of them magically transform from articulate young ladies into silly little girls, and I'm reminded anew of how little -- and how precious -- they each are. Tyler loves to wriggle and splash and tickle. She often gets more than a little out of hand, and I end up with water in my eyes (if I'm lucky), bruises and scratches, or an unintentional kick in the groin. Tayler used to be deathly afraid of swimming in water deeper than her hips; but now she loves to swim all over the pool.
The game we played at the pool that day involved me holding my breath and floating, face down, until the kids came within arm's length. Then I'd grab them and tickle them. That this would amuse them for more than a single iteration is amazing to me: if we did something similar out of the water they'd get bored within seconds. But in the pool, they each kept coming back over to me, knowing full well that I'd tickle them given the chance. After this, I tried my best to sneak up on Tayler to tickle her when she wasn't expecting it. Each time she shrieked loudly, and I had to really work to stifle the laugh that came over me. Were I to tickle her at home more than once, she would snap "Stop it dad!" in a commanding voice.
Once, long before we were married, I babysat the twins while Carina did something. I recorded the twins singing songs and making jokes, and then got them to repeat a few funny phrases. I then used these as interstitials on a mix CD I prepared for Carina. She found that CD yesterday, and played the twins' tracks for them as we drove home. Included were such gems as Tayler saying "Mommy, you're the bees knees", Tyler telling her favorite joke at the time ("Why did the chicken cross the road? Because BOK BOK BOK!" -- this simple joke could keep Tyler laughing out loud all day!), and both of them singing "Where is Thumbkin" (which came out "Where is Pumpkin?" followed by a lot of indistinct mumbling as they tried to remember the words).
After the kids went to bed, Carina and I stayed up listening to WAV files she had recorded from when the kids were little. It was a real treat to hear their cute little voices, and to be reminded of just how much they've grown up since then. It was also amazing to hear the kids saying way back then the same things they still say and do today: Tyler teased Tayler and laughed mischievously about it, while Tayler repeated "Stop!" again and again.
Carina and I both vowed to begin recording more of the kids, so that we can look back in another ten years and be reminded of how precious the twins were at this age, too.
Arbitrary Rules
At work, we have signs in all of our student computer labs which clearly state that no food or drink is permitted. Additionally, no food or drink containers are permitted. The justification for this is that we're not going to get into arguments with students as to which kinds of containers are permitted. If we permit empty containers, we'll need to verify that each container is empty, which is not only a waste of our time, but also sometimes difficult to do (as in the case of a Thermos, or other opaque container). We also don't want to have to check our video surveillance system to confirm that the container was empty when the student entered the room. Most of the infractions to date have been from people who feel the rule doesn't apply to them: their container was empty, or they have no place to put their sandwhich, or whatever.
I sympathize with the students, even as I'm enforcing the policy. I know exactly how they feel.
The RPAC at OSU has an arbitrary policy that you're only allowed to forget your membership ID twice a year. I forget what the penalty is for forgetting your ID a third time. I didn't feel like finding out this morning as I realized I'd left my wallet at home for the third time in a year. Instead I turned around and went home without exercising.
The CharityChannel mailing list, on which I've participated for some time, has a completely arbitrary -- and in my opinion asinine -- "signature" requirement for participation:
If for some reason you prefer not to provide the name of your organization, or if you are not with an organization per se, you may provide the following information as your signature.
i. Name. Your first and last name.
ii. Location. City/State or City/Province (or equivalent).
This is the only list on which I participate that has any formal rules at all!
I consistently fail to place my last name when signing my messages to this list. As a result my messages get held for moderation, and the other day I received a rebuke from the list manager reminding me to sign my messages according to the rules. Just like the students I deal with I work, I feel like the rule doesn't apply to me, or that my efforts to comply have been "good enough".
I replied to the rebuke with the following:
I hope you'll agree with me when I say that providing my first and last name is completely redundant, given that the same data is available in the header of my email messages. I am not one of the people who uses an alias, or obfuscated FROM SMTP header. If any of your readers are unable to read the FROM header in my messages, that's surely their problem, and not mine.
I then encouraged the manager to unsubscribe me from the list, since it's unlikely that I'll ever comply.
80s Karaoke
I bought a portable karaoke machine for Carina's birthday, along with a two-disc set of 80s karaoke discs. It's marginally depressing that all the other karaoke discs were either country or religious.
The twins have been having fun with the machine since the moment we opened it. Tyler loves to crank up the echo when she sings. She's also taken quite naturally to belting out a song in thrash vocal style if she flounders on the proper style. It's adorable to watch her growling along to "Our house". Tayler's a little more timid about it, and will often simply speak the lyrics on the screen rather than take a shot at singing them incorrectly.
I took a shot at "Addicted to Love" by Robert Palmer. About halfway through Tyler's eyes lit up as she finally recognized the tune. She blurted out "Addicted to Spuds!" It pleases me beyond words that my kids enjoy Weird Al as much as do!
Now I need to practice (a lot!) if I want to be able to do a passable job of "We're Not Gonna Take It" by Twisted Sister.
My Bartender
I ran into my bartender today at the auto parts store. Although he's no longer tending bar, I will always think of him as "my bartender". He told me that now he's racing motorcycles professionally!
When I lived in Lima, OH for a while, I frequented the BW-3 there. I didn't know many people in town outside of work, so I'd usually sit alone at the bar while playing NTN trivia. When the evening was slow -- or if I ate there on my lunch break -- I would often chat with Scott, the bartender. He was a personable fellow, a polite listener, and had a good sense of humor. He was also in a band, and played bass guitar if memory serves. We weren't friends in any real way: just friendly with one another. His conversation helped make my time in Lima bearable until I met a couple folks I could truly call "friend".
When I moved back to Columbus, I was gobsmacked to find Scott tending bar at Dick's Den. We both recognized one another, and had a pleasant couple of minutes catching up. In the years since, we've bumped into one another a few times. I can't really explain it, but there's something reassuring about Scott. Maybe I see him as a kindred spirit: one who escaped Lima, OH like me. Maybe it's just that he was "my bartender". Maybe it's something else...
I have several friends who get along with almost everyone. I've long admired Jeff and Mike for being able to run into an acquaintance every time they set foot outside. They're both the kind of person most folks want to be friends with, and I'm often envious of how well they get along with people in general. I spent so many years being angry and standoffish that I don't have a large body of casual friends like they do. In some ways, my friendship with Scott, my bartender, reassures me that it's not too late for me to be the kind of person with whom people want to be friends.
ROF
While trying to explain ROFL to Marie at happy hour last night, Carina helpfully explained that it was just like LOL.
Carina: It's just like LOL. Except that you're rolling on the floor.
skippy: Laughing.
Carina: Right, laughing.
skippy: Because otherwise it'd just be ROF.
Mike: Maybe you're on fire?
skippy: Stop, Drop, and ROF
Carina nearly spilled her beer from laughing so hard (she was LOL!).
The point of this entire conversation was an attempt to explain the ROLFcopter image:
And this ironic interpretation of ROFLMAO comes courtesy of Paul:
Update: Scott sends word of ROLFCAT, for more LOLing!
